Hi Lizzie,
cover me in breadcrumbs and eleven herbs and spices prepared to the Colonel’s secret recipe and I STILL wouldn’t be seasoned, but…
If it’s possible and you can ask politely, try to get a recording of at least part of the session, but don’t be “in your face” about it, i.e. don’t plonk a ghetto blaster in the middle of the table and keep saying “hang on, I’m not ready, OK now, oh, wait” etc. OK, I know you wouldn’t do that, but you know what I mean.
A minidisc player is ideal, as you can set to LP4 and get nearly 5 hours of recording, that way you can set it going and then forget about it. It’s also small and therefore reasonably discreet.
That way, you can “take the session home” and try to play along on unfamiliar tunes without grimaces & tears. If you can get the names of the tunes they like to play, you can find them online or in tunebooks, CDs etc and practise them, though it’s also nice to be able to bring a new tune to the mix.
Relax, and enjoy. Don’t worry if you never get to play a tune, you’re hearing the music, absorbing and learning just by being there, and your own playing will improve as a result. It wouldn’t matter if you went to two dozen sessions and still hadn’t played a note, when you are ready you will have benefitted.
Relax and Enjoy!! And remember, no matter how good the players may be, they were all beginners once, and know how you will be feeling, and they’ll give you encouragement and support, and be happy to see a new face who wants to join in!
best wishes, Martin