May Wright, 1936-2005

Just a brief note to let y’all know that my wife, May, passed away yesterday, August 1st.

She was in the Arlington Memorial Hospital (in Arlington, TX) for treatment of a combination of pneumonia and congestive heart failure. The nurse on duty said that she was telling May about a procedure that they were going to do to try to help with her breathing problems, and May nodded, as if she understood. The nurse turned away for a moment, and when she turned back, May had stopped breathing. It seems to have been very peaceful. (We rather suspect that she was simply unwilling to put up with yet another invasive procedure.)

May had been in a skilled nursing facility for two months, for treatment of bed sores, when she began having difficulty breathing. They put her on antibiotics on the second day, but by the third day, it was bad enough that they decided to send her to the hospital. She was admitted on July 29th and seemed to be responding to treatment, but then had a relapse early on the 1st.

We’re having her body cremated and will keep the urn at home for the time being. There being only a few family members who know her here, we will not be having any kind of ceremony.

In spite of the fact that we’ve been expecting her to go any time, it’s still been an emotional time for the family. It’s quite a relief to finally have her suffering ended, though, so no need for condolences. If she could have had her way, it wouldn’t have taken nearly so long.

We were just four months away from our 40th wedding anniversary, and for the seven years since her stroke, I’ve been almost entirely focussed on her care, so I’ve got some heavy adjusting to do. It’s still strange to think that I can just go out, get in the car, and go somewhere with hardly a second thought.

Hope everyone on C&F is doing well.

You and your family will be in my thoughts as your wife has found her peace.

Carol

Ah, Mike, … May her spirit fly free, her soul rejoice, and your memories warm you through the tough times of it all. She’ll still hear your music, I’d wager. 40 years of marriage is testament to the wealth of your relationship with her. May you adjust to the changes knowing she is happy.

May peace be with you, Mike. You and May have been much in my thoughts throughout the time I’ve known you, and you will both continue to be.

With my best wishes,
Jerry

Here’s wishing you both peace and rest…

I remember seeing some pictures of you and May, some from quite a long time ago. I am glad May doesn’t have to struggle any more, but I am sorry for the hard time your family is going through.

My sincerest condolences, Mike. May your best memories sustain you in this time.

Sincerely,
Tyg

May you find stregnth and peace and bask in the light of your fond memories.

Regards,

Philo

My condolences Mr. Wright. Know that you and your family are in my prayers…

Peace to you and your family, Mike.

My thoughts are with you, Mike.

Condolences. Sounds as though you’ve been a good
friend and husband. Jim

I am so sorry for your loss, Mike. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Byll

Deepest Sympathy.

We are all here for you and share your pain,

Slan,
D.

Mike,
I can’t claim to really know what you’ve been through, but you have my respect and admiration. I hope I could be as brave and committed in a similar situation. Peace to you both.

John

My thoughts are with you. I am a big believer in the power of ritual. I respect you and your family’s choice not to have any kind of formal ceremony. However, an informal ceremony with even a few people can be a powerful way to process the torrent of emotions.

I agree. We recently held an informal memorial for one of the senior belts in our tae kwon do association. He had passed after a long struggle with cancer. We took turns sharing stories and lifting glasses in his memory. There were tears and laughter–it was much more satisfying that some services I’ve attended, often led by a pastor who didn’t know the family and was just hired for the occasion.

Peace be with you and your family!

M

My sincere condolences.

Peace and condolences to you, Mike.

Thinking of you, Mike. Please take care of yourself. My condolences to you and your family.

Dana C.