I agree there are two issues here, “learning” and “playing/performing.” Here’s how I think of those dimensions.
Learning (input): I believe if our aim is to play and enjoy the “Irish” in ITM, then we have to learn not only the notes, but how they are typically played by Irish musicians. Not how a single note is played, but how groups of notes are often played, as phrases.
A couple new students of the music have recently joined our local seisiún, and they ask similar questions. So I think it must be a universal thing-which-must-be-understood. When in their position I too asked “but what is the ‘right’ way?” And was told there wasn’t a ‘right’ way, but I was quite sure were wrong ways, having discovered not a small number of them myself.
To the dismay of the learner, there is not one “style” that defines “Irish.” There are regional differences, and player differences, but somehow they all sound “Irish.” Coincident with the learning of a tune is the learning of the Irish musical accent. It can be complicated, but thankfully our brains can handle it, pretty much on their own. Some people more quickly than others, but to all but a few who wouldn’t be trying it in the first place it will come. How?
We must listen. Listen a lot, so we can listen deeply. The more we listen, the more our ears will hear, or rather our brain will be able to discern, and then we will hear things in the music that were not there previously.
Here’s how I explain it today - if we in America pick up an Irish newspaper, (or I guess go to http://www.irishtimes.com these days) and read the news aloud, it probably doesn’t sound “Irish.” But if an Irish man or women reads it, the news “sounds Irish.” Yes?
If we wanted to “perform” said news as an Irishman would, we would have to listen to lots and lots of spoken Irish to pick up the accent. We already know how to “read” - it’s the performing of the news where the “Irishness” gets put in. True, the writer’s choice of wording might be a clue, and likewise there are patterns in the tunes that suggest the country of origin, but they can be “read” in American, Brittish, Indian or Irish accents.
So here’s what worked for me: go to http://clare.fm/music/ClareFM%20trad%20archive at least once a week and download the programs you don’t have. Listen to them all the time. (In my case I spend hours and hours in the shop making whistles, so it’s a natural thing to do. Plus the news regarding America is interesting.) You will find your “playing” starts sounding more like what you are hearing. As a bonus you’ll also pick up some Irish phrases like “an evening not to be missed” (meaning the concert promises to be really good) that will start creeping into your conversation.
Performing (output): Here’s my way of thinking about performing anything, music, theater, whatever. The bottom line is the performer must show the audience (even if it is only themselves) part of their spirit. And the more of “their” spirit that comes through, the more powerful or enjoyable will be the performance.
The more masterful our technique the more options we will have to let your spirit be seen, but even in our first clumsy tunes we can tell when we have given a good “performance” and when we have not, even if we played all the right notes.
Some people expose their spirit naturally, but others have to gain confidence and learn to let go, to become child-like when they play. Count me as one of that latter number. Being more Spock-like than anything I tried to simulate or maybe emulate spirited performances I had heard. It was OK, but that was all.
By playing in front of people a lot I eventually became comfortable with letting them see my spirit, my humanity perhaps. It’s OK to make a mistake, just keep the performance rolling. Keep them engaged. Don’t break the spell. This we learn by doing.
There’s a mental or physical brain training hurdle to playing in front of others. When playing by our self our mind can concentrate on our play. When others are around we will typically find ourselves paying some amount of attention to them and their reactions, and our play will suffer. Especially at first. I think a big part of getting over performance anxiety is learning to suspend this attention on others while we play, or in more advanced performers developing the ability to play AND pay attention to other things. This is a separate “muscle” in your brain that also takes time to develop. So play for others as often as you can. A seisiún is a great place for this because everyone understands what you are going thru and will support you.
Apart from the physical or mental skill of blowing and wiggling your fingers while we ignore or pay some amount attention to our audience, there is the bashful reaction most of us have to baring our spirit to others. I think it must be similar to exposing our bodies. Some people wear the most revealing things in public, and others won’t walk naked past the mirror in their own bathroom. I’m not saying there’s a connection between willingness to dress for exposure and play for exposure - in fact I think they are completely disconnected - but I think some people, if not most people, will have to learn to be comfortable showing of themselves in a performance.
I think this showing of ones spirit in a performance is where many people want to get to when they say they want to “learn to play the (fill in the blank).” They want to let out their creativeness thru music and believe (hope?) that learning the skill of playing will achieve it. At some point I realized the instrument is not the music - we are the music. The instrument is merely the sound. And getting over this bashfulness is a big part of being happy with our performances.
I tell people their instrument is not the music any more than the tap is the beer. The instrument and the tap merely let out what has been brewing. Yes, the technique of “playing” an instrument facilitates letting it out, but it is the player who has to make the music, and be willing to show it - as it is, warts and all - to others.
In the learning, you assimilate the tunes and Irishness, and in the performing you let your spirit out through the whistle/tune/Irish accent vehicles. You could just as well apply the above to bluegrass or jazz or classical music or poetry slams.
I hope that made sense. (Writing a post is a little bit of a performance too, isn’t it lurkers?)