I just played my grandfather’s funeral. It was simple to do, and I had done once before. I started with Amazing Grace, and would alternate with Nearer My God to Thee, Psalm 42, The Parting Glass, and Mo Ghíle Mear. This was interesting as this was my Italian grandfather, but hey, my dad’s side got to see and hear something they may never see again, and besides, he was a musician and this was my special tribute to him.
I’ve never really been at a loss for what to do at funerals as the sets basically write themselves. The day after the funeral, however, I had a wedding (preludes and afterwards…not the ceremony itself). Now, things seemed to go fine, as I only had one request for a specific song and he also requested that I not play any church music (about 1/3 of my repertoire). I basically just ran through all the slow airs that i knew about two minutes each, especially the shorter ones.
My first question is this: any advice for doing weddings and more demanding stuff like that?
After the wedding, I took a friend to dinner at a fancy restaurant. I was there in my tux with tails and white vest and bowtie so needless to say, I stood out. In addition, it was raining so I didn’t want to leave the pipes in the car (and of course that case I’ve got is friggin HUGE). So everybody at the restaurant (staffwise) was asking me what I played. Now they’re thinking of hiring me to play there once a week.
My second question: any advice for doing more demanding gigs like restaurants or receptions (where you have to fill, say, two hours)? 15 min sets? 20? How many songs should you play before repeating any?
My third question: how much should I charge the restaurant (a fancy one in North Jersey) if they hire me to play once a week for say three months? It’s about an hour from home, and I will need to learn more songs. I charged the wedding people $175 for their event about the same distance away, but there’s a big difference between $175 for a wedding event and doing the same for a regular gig at a restaurant (basically being paid $100 an hour). I don’t know what to ask for for such a gig. I want it to be worth my time, but I don’t want to ask for so much that it scares them off. How much to violinists and harpists get for regular restaurant gigs?