Good input folks. 
rhulsey thanks for your kind offer? but I’ll continue my search. I want a tall upright, but might settle for a smaller grand if I have to. I can’t tell you how many folks have offered to sell me their pianos, just among folks I know. They have one they bought for their kids or some such, and now it’s never used. I’ve looked at a few, but all have been either short spinets or consoles in various degrees of neglect.
emmline- one of the dealers I checked out locally mainly has older rebuilt pianos. However, so far he’s had only grands and at prices that would buy a new one. Granted the Steinway is nice, but not on the pocketbook, and the only other one I’d consider is a way too big 20year old Kawai grand that he wants too much for. I’ll keep checking with him though. Em, your area has some highly recommended stores. I’ve threatened to visit my daughter up there, just to piano shop!
doug I am checking out ads for local used pianos just in case something turns up that’s interesting. I couldn’t buy a piano that I’d not had hold of. As I’m sure you know, since you play, each is too much an individual for me to do that. I know some people buy them long distance without having played them, but I just can’t.
missy I never thought to replace the Baldwin spinet that I’ve always played on. But, over the last two or three years it has begun to not hold tune. Within a week of tuning it is going out. I don’t mean out as in it doesn’t sound too good, I mean out as in, I play and look at the key thinking, “did I just miss that note? no, it is just that far out”. Really really awful to the point that I am only playing the minimal amount required to be able to play the organ each Sunday at church and not make a mess of it. I had the hammers/action redone about 9 years ago, but it’s just not worth what a complete rebuild would cost to do that on this piano. I like to play everyday, it’s my main instrument. I HAVE to have a piano to play. It’s not an option for me.I’ve done this for most of my life.
One thing I have noticed is that none of the new pianos I’ve seen so far can compare with the cabinet on my old one. Mine’s walnut is really beautiful. The new walnuts I’ve seen are just muddy dark brown wood. (I question whether they are really walnut). Granted I have not seen any top of the line new pianos yet, nor could I afford top of the line, but then my old piano was not top of the line when it was bought, but the woodwork is extremely nice.)
The big problem too that I’m finding, in addition to lack of selection in my area, is that I want to only buy one piano. I don’t want to trade up later, this next piano should last me the rest of my life, and hopefully someone beyond. Most that are easily available for me(other than Yamaha- and I’m not fond of the bright sound they have) now seem to be made in China(a fact dealers seem reluctant to reveal-but I’ve got “the Piano Book”, so I can look it up. They may or may not be good instruments. Most have too short a track record to know.
At the store I found today they actually had about 15 pianos on the floor. Most were smaller console sizes, but there were a few taller uprights. One upright, Perzina, I really like sound wise. (German name, now made, yep, you guessed it, in China) It had a darker, mellow sound that appeals to me. Unfortunately, it only came in a really shiny polished finish. Can’t take that mirror finish. Yuk, just not for me, I’m not a “shiny happy person” type. The other one that was nice was a Falcone( prestigeous American name, yep, again, made in China). This was a shorter grand, and while it looked wonderful, felt great, it did not have the “sound” of the upright.
Both, have no long term track record and that makes me a bit nervous.
So, the search continues…