I used to think this guy I knew who listened to only Irish music was out of his mind. And even when I started my occasional lessons with John Skelton and one of the first things he said was “Listen, listen, all the time listen” (I remember at that point he was listening to Frankie Gavin’s “Fierce Traditional” – and wow, what a great recommendation that turned out to be), I thought “Good Lord, I’ll kill myself if I have to hear all this deedly-dee that sounds all the same all the time!”
But I decided to commit myself and give it a try; I mean, I certainly wasn’t making much progress the way I was doing it.

So I started listening and listening and …
Now, I’m ALL about osmosis. Lately I’ve been amazed by how many times I go to sessions and though I may never have played a tune before I’ve heard it enough from my constant listening that I can pick it out pretty well – probably about 80% of the tune – by the third time through. I’ve had more than a few people, including much, much, MUCH better players than me, tell me “Wow, you have a lot of tunes!” Of course, I always answer with the truth, which is that I don’t have ANY as well as I should. 
But anyway, now I’m starting to pick up more nuances and phrasing too – and maybe even a bit of style! Whoo-hoo! – and transfer it to my own playing.
I don’t know anything about any of the cool mainstream or alternative bands out there anymore alas, but I attribute much, much, much of my playing progress to the near-constant listening I’ve been doing the last 3-4 years.
And hey, now I actually enjoy it. I sit around and nerd out and go “Wow! That was so cool how Ivan Goff put that roll on the G instead of of the A!”
Oh, dear. I’ve become that guy. 