Well it’s not really a problem but I recently opened an account on Facebook…under pressure from my Son to embrace such things. I saw a little button that would show me who among my Email contacts was a member. What I did not know was that all these people would automatically be invited to become my..ahem..friend. So if anybody with a Facebook account gets an invite from somebody they never heard of called Dave Deegan..well that’s me.
I’ve already had two of our little flock asking if it was me and they already knew my real name.
Sorry for any confusion or worries about spammers and hackers ..
Facebook has just declared a huge change to their terms of service. Ere now, the default setting for most of the site was ‘private’, meaning that only those listed as friends would see it. That’s no longer the case, because Facebook has decided that what it has is a massive database detailing how much of the wired anglosphere knows each other. It’s a marketer’s goldmine, or would be except for that inconvenient ‘privacy’ default which screws up everyone’s data-mining operations. So they’ve declared an end to it, hoping that most people are engaged enough that they won’t get chased away. We’ll soon find out who’s right…
I occasionally did internet searches of people in my past just to make sure they were far away. Amazingly, they didn’t pop up on the internet, which was strange and maybe worse. Then I saw on facebook there is a thing to see who has searched for you. Now they’ll know if they check. Life is getting too complicated.
I am also connected to the Francosphere via a friend in Lyon, and the Espanolosphere via my husband’s cousin in Tijuana…yes, it will all run together someday.
I have never liked that Facebook would e-mail everyone in your addressbook about your presence on FaceBook. I consider it spam. After classifying quite a few of them as spam, I no longer see them in my inbox now. yay filters!
I opened a facebook account recently. You need to read the initial questions on the application form carefully. I answered “no” to whether I wanted to open my email list to facebook, and I haven’t heard that the people on my email list received emails from facebook. With a thousand people on my email list (people inquiring about flutes), you would think that I would have heard something had all of them been contacted by facebook.
I just opened a Facebook account. It’s fascinating to see how the “suggested friends” one works. I get where some are coming from, but others I’ve yet to figure out the connection - although I do know the people. Especially when I first opened the account and didn’t have any friends listed, so no others to “mine” information from.
The only thing I can figure out is that they did the email thing and I deleted the original a long time ago as spam.
According to a story that I saw on the web, Facebook was ruined when all the old people moved in. How nice we could annoy them right back. It’s almost the equivalent of wearing our pants around our knees.
I think Gonzo’s use of a pseudonym is sensible. I have my real name, but no picture (a cartoon instead).
There’s always a first time. Hi5 spammed my addressbook. That was because they asked the question “Can we?” in a pop-up, and I had pop-ups disabled. IMO silence does NOT mean consent.
Look out for the Chiff&Fipple Group, where you can indicate your handle on C&F and your handle on FB, so people can connect the two. If you are so minded. And be prepared to block a whole bunch of distracting FB “applications”. Chrisoff will tell you.
I used my real name- which a lot of people don’t know- and an email that I don’t often check.
I only have maybe 8 friends on Facebook- my school was so tiny that it’s not even on there, so no connections with folks from the past. This could be a good thing??
Do you know how MANY Dave Deegans there are on FB??? Seriously??? I thought there was no way it was you. Plus, there was no way on earth it should have given you as a friend suggestion, when you didn’t even have any friends period, let alone any that would be common. So ppffttt to you
I used my real name and photo and an email address that I check frequently, and I think that most of my current FB friends do the same. Facebook is a social network, and as such, I think that it is important to have at least an actual photo of the person. Many people post albums of photos and videos, and I think that it is interesting to learn about people’s lives via the photos that they share. For instance, there is a person who has written on Chiff and Fipple for several years, but on Facebook he has become more than an avatar face. He posts his travels and musical and family events that he attends. In a short time I am beginning to feel that I know him much better than I did before. I think that this is great. In some cases, of course, I’m learning more than I need or want to know.
I really don’t need to know that someone is brushing their teeth now. I don’t feel that I need to verbalize everything, even with my wife.
Of course, if you post thoughts or photos on facebook, you may get replies to those comments from other friends that you have allowed into your facebook family group. Notification of these reply comments are sent as an email to your email account. In order to have any kind of timely interaction, I think that it is important to have a linked email account that you check frequently, as things move pretty quickly on facebook. Yesterday’s comment will likely be long gone tomorrow.
??? I suspect I may have ranted about this before, but I don’t remember…
I’d managed to get my facebook page set up quite nicely and was successfully ignoring all the nonsense games and apps that people sent me invites for. Then facebook changed the layout of the front page a few months ago and now they’re all appearing again! Very infuriating.
I quite like the ability to maintain links with my group of far-flung friends, and we have used Facebook to organize get-togethers and to quickly update folks on important or interesting upcoming events, and be notified by others of same. It’s really useful for that. However, I’ve had to go the step of actually hiding all updates from certain users, otherwise my news feed is a constant barrage of quiz results (“Jennifer has taken the quiz, ‘What color is your aura?’, with the result: Orange!”) and maddening invitations to join somebody’s Mafia or accept a virtual cake or something (“Jennifer has sent you a cake! Accepting this cake means that you accept granting the Send Cakes application access to your address book and other areas of your Facebook profile.”) So I end up refusing all those cakes and things, which makes me feel bad. So I hide folks and check in on them when I have the urge.
I swear that some people are able to take twenty of those “quizzes” per day! Where do they find the time? Or inclination?
(I also really feel like I didn’t need to know some of the “25 Random Facts” about people when that meme swept Facebook. Privacy is undervalued, nowadays; dignity, too.)
herbivore12 has taken the quiz “What character from the Lord of the Rings trilogy are you?” with the result: There is no freaking herbivore12 in the damned Lord of the Rings trilogy! Argh.
I’ve blocked most of the annoying little trinkets people are constantly sending on facebook.
I’ve set up some groups so I can see posts only from family or only from C&Fers etc.
I don’t use IM much but I did bug Emmline once about some ladders.
I have a cousin that sends me an IM every time I log in. It’s quite annoying.
Just de-follow the compulsive and it will be okay. You can always check on them out of curiosity. You quickly know who they are. One acquaintance posted, “I want some ice cream.” I mean, that was all the evidence I needed to block her annoying posts..
